Top 10 Scary Movies I’d Actually Show Teenagers

Posted on: 10/27/11 9:34 AM | by Jonathan McKee

Tis the season to be… scary?

First, let me come right out and admit that I’m not against dressing up on the 31st of this month, collecting candy and bobbing for apples. If you’re offended by this stuff, I’m sorry (I’ll try not to eat from my bowl full of Snickers bars in front of you).

Yes, there are a few frustrating things about this holiday, probably the biggest being the incredible shrinking size of young girls’ costumes (as a dad of two teenage daughters that really bugs me). It’s also intriguing to see the curiosity young people have toward things paranormal. But those elements aside, I still think that young people, families and youth ministries can have good clean fun on Halloween. For me personally… I love popping some popcorn and sitting down to a fun, scary movie.

The question is, are there any quality scary movies that don’t include gratuitous shots of naked teenagers getting slashed up at a slumber party? In other words… any appropriate scary movies that we can actually show to teenagers?

Top 5 Scary Movies I’d Actually Show Teenagers
(I’ll list the next 5 tomorrow)

(WARNING: Please don’t just read the titles below, rent the film and show it at youth group. You will be fired! There are several of these that I would not show at youth group- but I would co-watch with certain teenagers. So read my description and my linked review carefully, then view the film yourself, using your discernment.)

Signs— (directed by M. Night Shyamalan) This is one of my favorite films overall, so it’s a cinch to nab a spot on my top 10 scary list. This movie, starring Mel Gibson and Joaquin Phoenix is about a small farming family that wakes up to discover 500 foot crop circles in their backyard. After these crop circles begin appearing all over the globe, the world soon fears invasion from another world. Don’t let the premise mislead you, the film is anything but corny. In fact, it’s quite deep, with some scenes that will springboard some fantastic discussion. We actually provide an entire curriculum with small group discussion questions and a Bible passage on our web site.

Jaws—(directed by Stephen Spielberg)  Another of my film favorites. I always find it funny to see the expression on someone’s face when I tell them it’s one of my favorites. I can tell when it’s someone who either hasn’t seen it, or hasn’t seen it in a couple decades and remembers that phony looking mechanical shark from Universal Studios and the sequels, which pale by comparison. Do not be fooled, the first film is amazing, hardly showing the shark at all. Spielberg probably scared more people with this film than almost any film in history. I think of the film every time I get in the ocean. If you haven’t seen it in a while, you should turn out the lights, turn up the volume so you can hear John Williams Oscar-winning score, and be ready to be pleasantly intrigued. The best scene is without a doubt Quint’s story about the sinking of the USS Indianapolis. I still show that scene to illustrate good storytelling in my 10-Minute Talks workshop. I like to show this film to teenagers on what I call a “Dive-in Movie Night” where they all watch the film… in a pool!

The Exorcism of Emily Rose—(directed by Scott Derickson) I debated including this on my list simply because, I wouldn’t show this to all teenagers. So give me a moment to plead my case. First, this is a film directed by a Christian filmmaker who loves to use his films to provoke discussion (Here’s my interview with him about the film). The film is really about a court case that eventually argues, does God exist? The premise, based on a true story, uses the scary events of an exorcism gone wrong to stimulate questions about the afterlife. I wouldn’t show this film to my daughters because it would be too frightening. The film is terrifying. But for those parents and youth workers whose kids are the type that frequent movies like the current Paranormal Activity 3 that just raked in $54 million at the box office last weekend, this film would be perfect. It’s clean, it’s grounded in truth, and asks all the right questions.

Super 8—(directed by JJ Abrams) Maybe it’s because I’m 41-years-old and I remember watching films like Goonies and E.T. in the theatres as a young boy, maybe it’s just because I like good film making… but Super 8 delivered a great story, lovable characters and plenty of jumps in this nostalgic film about a group of friends in 1979 who witness a catastrophic train crash and begin to notice inexplicable events in their small town. Great film, totally clean (except for the language that was pretty realistic for the kids of that time), only PG-13 for the sci-fi action and violence.

Ghost and the Darkness—(directed by Stephen Hopkins) This film (which has nothing to do with ghosts) is based on the chilling true story of two lions in Africa that killed 130 people in a nine month period. In the spirit of Jaws, and Alien, the director cleverly chose to not show the lions for much of the film, instead, just the horror of surprise and the fear of what lurks in the dark. Val Kilmer, Michael Douglas, Tom Wilkinson… not too shabby. This 1996 film delivers all around! (Completely appropriate for teenagers. I’d show this film to youth group kids with no hesitation.)

5 More Tomorrow

What about you? Any scary films you like to show your teenagers? Any films you showed…and then regretted?

A Movie That Provokes Conversation

Posted on: 10/25/11 11:51 AM | by Jonathan McKee

Young people love media. Thus… I love using media as a springboard to conversations about real life issues. Sadly, the grab-bag of appropriate media isn’t very full these days.

Remember the good ol’ days when the good guys on movies and TV actually had “character”? (Okay… I just added that picture for nostalgia… and now that I’m really looking at the picture I’m laughing because the family is watching a bunch of birds. Do those birds have character?) Today, a movie is released on DVD/Blu-ray that is not only fun and entertaining… but it also provokes conversation about “character.” (I even wrote some questions for you to use. More on that in a minute)

Most the media that our kids are absorbing is pretty disturbing. Last weekend the number one movie at the box office was Paranormal Activity, a film about two young girls who befriend an invisible entity. The number one music video downloaded in the last week was Britney Spears’ Criminal (with, count em’, two sex scenes) and the number one song was Sexy and I Know It, only to be passed by Rihanna’s song, We Found Love (whose corresponding racy video just jumped to the number one spot today on iTunes). Sigh.

In the midst of all this distressing media, a morally inspiring story arises out of the dungheap. I’m talking about the film, Captain America. You don’t have to be a comic book geek to like this film. The film has action, humor and heart. It’s a film you won’t regret watching with the whole family (some elements might be a little frightening for really young children), and it’s a film that will springboard great conversations.

I think the element I liked the best was the relationship between the professor and the young man who becomes Captain America. The professor was much more interested in “character” than “physique.” They have several discussions about this truth, discussions that could have flowed right out of scripture.

I wrote some fun discussion questions for you on our review of the film on our MOVIE REVIEWS & QUICK Q’s page. Use those to dialogue with your kids about what you see.

What are you waiting for… grab some popcorn, head to the video store and rent it tonight!  (I sound like an infomercial. Funny… I’m not promo-ing the film for anyone… I’m just excited when films actually show what good ol’ values look like.)

Best Movie Quotes- Contest Winners

Posted on: 10/6/11 5:02 PM | by Jonathan McKee

Earlier this week I announced a fun little contest where you submitted your favorite movie quotes. The top 5 quotes win the new Lion King BluRay/DVD combo (I’ve been seeing this movie everywhere this week—Wal Mart, Costco, Best Buy. I already got mine… such a good film!)

Before I announce the winners, let me tell you, this wasn’t an easy choice. Soooooooooooo many of these were good quotes. It was hard choosing 5 winners. And my wife and daughters are really bummed that there aren’t any While You Were Sleeping quotes in the bunch (“Are you sure? Because it looks like he’s…leaning.”)

But here are the 5 that struck a chord with me upon first reading. I chose about 10 and my daughter Ashley (quite a movie buff) selected the 5 winners:

“I don’t want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career. I don’t want to sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed. You know, as a career, I don’t want to do that.” -Lloyd Dobler – Say Anything
Penny, parent in Lincoln, CA

“I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who’s ever lived: I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.” – Noah Calhoun – The Notebook
Randi Lynn – youth pastor with my husband in Des Moines, IA

“Do or do not. There is no try.” -Yoda –Star Wars
Tyler Rody, youth worker, Virden, MB

“Go that way, really fast. If something gets in your way…turn.”  -Charles DeMar – Better Off Dead.
Adam, youth worker, Freehold, NJ

“How do you write women so well?”
“I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.” –Melvin –As Good As It Gets
Trisha, youth worker, Owensboro

Just so you know, we almost chose the Dr. Strangelove quote, the Remember the Titans quote, the My Blue Heaven quote and others. Tough choice.

Okay… if you’re a winner use the CONTACT US button on this blog to email me your mailing address and I’ll get this Lion King BluRay/DVD Combo in the mail to ya!

For the rest of you… keep checking out our free MOVIE REVIEWS & QUICK Q’s page on both our web pages (4YM and 4Parents) where we provide movie reviews as well as discussions questions that help you dialogue with your kids about what you just watched.

Your Favorite Quote Contest

Posted on: 10/3/11 4:34 PM | by Jonathan McKee

It’s time for me to give away another great prize… I’ve got 5 of the brand new Lion King BluRay/DVD combos right here and I’m going to give them away to the 5 people who submit the best movie quotes.

If you’ve subscribed to my blog for even a short while then you’ve quickly discovered that I love movies. So what better contest is there than to have you guys send me your favorite movie quotes. I’ll choose the best 5 and send those people the new Lion King BluRay (about time this was released in 1080p!)

It’s simple. Just send me the following:

  1. Your Name and city you live in
  2. Whether you’re a youth worker or a parent
  3. Your favorite movie quote, the character who said it, and the movie.

An example of a good quote. Lori and Alyssa just watched Gone With the Wind last week and the next day Alyssa was quoting:

No, I don’t think I will kiss you, although you need kissing, badly. That’s what’s wrong with you. You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how.

Or from one of my favorite films, A Bronx Tale:

Only three things you can do in jail: Lift weights, play cards, or get into trouble.

What did you do?

I read.

I’ll look at the comments you all post this Thursday night, choose my five favorites and post the 5 winners Friday. Just make sure you use the comment feature of my blog and obey the directions above.

Side note: Lion King is probably one of my favorite Disney films. I was just sent a copy of it on BluRay… so cool in high res! It hits the shelves Tuesday, October 4th.

Conversation Starter WINNERS

Posted on: 09/22/11 9:46 PM | by Jonathan McKee

This week we had a resourceful little contest that truly made us all winners, because not only am I giving away cool prizes to 10 different people, but all of us now get the benefit of a page full of great ideas for conversation starters! Check them all out. Really good stuff. Thank you all for participating (over 100 comments).

I’m tired (a week at jury duty- finished today, sentencing a young man to prison. So sad. I’m truly emotionally drained), so I won’t delay. Let’s get right to the winners.

I had my team at THE SOURCE look at all 100+ comments and each send me their favorites. It’s funny how many of us chose the exact same ones. In all honesty, 8 out of 10 of these winners were chosen by at least three people alike on our team (all youth workers and parents who regularly are conversating with kids).

Here’s the winners, some comments by me, followed by some instructions for each winner to claim their prizes.

WINNERS

To start us off, I have to go straight to Kerri S who asked (count em’) four amazingly insightful questions. We could really give her four prizes… but that would be lame for everyone else. So we’ll just give her one and give nine other people prizes!  🙂

One of her questions was literally picked by my entire team. That was:

  • If you could go back in time and tell yourself one thing before you started high school, what would it be?

Awesome question Kerri. Myself and my team also loved her other three questions:

  • If you could change one thing about your high school, what would it be
  • What do you think is one of the biggest misconceptions people have about teenagers?
  • Complete the statement- My life would be better if…

The rest of the winners:

Jeremy Smith asked a great question, chosen by most of my team: Is there anything you would willingly give your life for?

Chelsea asked: You have to eat the exact same meal for the next 12 months. What do you pick?

Mike asked: What’s the best birthday present you could ever imagine receiving, and who would you want to receive it from?

Michelle asked: If you could know the date of your death, would you want to?

There were several questions that talked about do-overs (if you could change one thing this week, today, this year, in your life…). Matt Pilla was the first to ask it, so we’re giving him the prize. He asked: If you could go back and change one thing about this week, what would it be?

Jason England asked: You’ve just sat down to use the restroom when you notice there is no toilet paper. What do you use and why? Gross, but hilarious.

Carl Eliason asked: If you were stuck in an elevator for 24 hours with one person, who would you like that person to be? Great question. Much like the desert island scenario.

Beaty Bass asked a million questions… and what do you know, one of them was chosen by several of my team: What was the last thing you cried about? Great question (My wife loved that one. She said it would have been a great one for her small group of girls). Your perseverance was worth it Beaty!!!

And finally, Kevin Hand asked an oldy but goody that still works really well with young people: If you were stranded on a desert island and you could take 3 items, what items would you take and why?

Okay… for the 10 winners… here’s how you claim your prize. Follow instructions carefully:

1. Use the CONTACT US button at the top of this blog to email me.

2. Give me your full name, the same email address you entered when you entered your comment, and the question you asked (so I can identify you).

3. Tell me the NAME and full ADDRESS where you want your prize mailed to (we’ll send it via USPS).

4. Tell me which prize you prefer, the BluRay or the book (and which book, Connect, or Candid Confessions…) The first to email will get the prize they request…first come, first serve.

That’s it! Thanks again for participating!

Conversation Starters

Posted on: 09/19/11 4:29 PM | by Jonathan McKee

Okay, time to give away some cool stuff. Everybody’s gonna win with this one, because we’re gonna give away some great conversation starter ideas, AND we’ll make it a contest where I’ll give away 5 of my books, and 5 of the new Disney 70th Anniversary Edition of Dumbo (the BluRay DVD combo pack).

Whether you’re a parent or a youth worker, you probably always have an ear out for good conversation starters. Picture this. You’re a mom and the family has just sat down for a family meal and you’d love to get your kids talking (instead of fighting). Maybe you propose this, “Let’s go around the table and each share our high and our low today.” Or maybe you ask, “Okay, everyone share your favorite meal if you could choose any one meal I make!”

Youth workers could use the same type of questions to kick off a small group or a Bible study. “If you could order any pizza, where would you order it from and with what toppings?”

So here’s the contest. Use the comment feature of this blog and share your best discussion provoking question that gets teenagers talking. Something like those above– something that you’ve had success with. Like: If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would you go and who would you bring? (You can gain quite a glimpse into a kid’s world with that question, finding out a little about their likes and who their best friends and/or significant other is.)

HOW TO ENTER: Simple. Just use the comment feature in this blog this week and tell me your name, whether you’re a parent or youth worker, and then give me your best question. I’ll choose 10 winners late Thursday night, announcing them Friday morning in my blog.

PRIZES: I’ll choose 10 winners. Winners will either get the Dumbo BlueRay DVD combo pack (in stores Sept 20th. I already got mine), or get a choice of one of my two books that help adults connect with teenagers (Connect or Candid Confessions of an Imperfect Parent).

Pleading Ignorant

Posted on: 09/9/11 12:12 PM | by Jonathan McKee

“I don’t know why they watch this stuff! It’s terrible!”

That’s what the sweet little ol’ lady next to me on the plane just told me, referring to her grandkids’ movie choices. Funny, she answered her own question in the next minute. Why do they “watch this stuff?” They watched it because she let them.

Today’s media is growing increasingly raunchy, and many parents (and grandparents) are simply giving up and pleading ignorant.

“Ignorant” is an interesting word if you think about it. It conveys “uninformed,” but the word more accurately suggests the fact that we are actually “ignoring” the painful truth.

The conversation with this lady started with her complaining about the movies her grandkids had just seen. I asked her, “Oh. Did you go and see a movie with your grandkids?”

“Yes. I took my grandkids to our local theatre. My grandson wanted to see that Transformers film. I didn’t want to see that movie, it looked terrible! So I went into another theater to see something else with my grand daughter… she’s 13. It was terrible too. I can’t remember what is was called. It was about some teachers that weren’t good?”

I tried to not spit out my drink all over the seat in front of me. “Y.. you took your grand daughter to see Bad Teachers?” I managed to ask without sounding insulting.

“Yes.” She wagged her head disapprovingly. “I didn’t know it would be so bad.

I couldn’t help myself from prodding a little deeper. “Did you look at the rating? It was Rated R for sexual content, nudity, language and some drug use.” (yeah… I really said that)

“Well, yes,” she said, dismissing my question. “But I don’t know what all those ratings mean. And by the time I realized it, my granddaughter had already seen most of it.”

Hmmmmmm.

It’s amazing how a woman who has lived on this planet for 60+ years doesn’t know what “sexual content, nudity, language and some drug use” means. And was the poster really that misleading, with the “EAT ME” sign and that slogan, She doesn’t give an ‘F’?

We talked a while longer and I showed her how to look up movies on www.IMDB.com and click on the “parents guide.”

So why do young people keep watching “this stuff?” Because adults keep making it, marketing it to kids, and then allowing them to watch it. The raunchy stuff is among their favorites (Check out the Teen Choice Awards winners this year—movies like No Strings Attached, Hangover II, Bad Teacher, etc.)

Adults are the gatekeepers here… and these gates are open wide.

Rambo in Disguise as Little Orphan Annie

Posted on: 09/7/11 11:44 PM | by Jonathan McKee

After a summer offering several fun movie choices… the theaters have run a little dry of late. So my attention has turned to the DVD/Blu Ray rental scene.

This week a intriguing little film was released, something very creative and original. The film is Hanna.  I think I’d put this in the same category as Bourne Identity or, dare I say, The Transporter (the first one, not the lame sequels). It’s a creative story with a lot of fun action, admittedly more for male audiences than female audiences.

Here’s a snippet from my official review of the film on our MOVIE REVIEWS & QUICK Q’s page:

No one can accuse this film of being unoriginal.

The film begins literally in the middle of nowhere, where father and daughter live together in an isolated cabin, hunting, reading, working out and practicing martial arts.

Within minutes, we discover that 16 year-old Hanna is training for something big. She’s smart, she’s fast, she’s tough… she’s Rambo in disguise as Little Orphan Annie.

Hanna engages on a mission to assassinate someone, a mission that results in her being tracked and hunted by a ruthless intelligence agent (Blanchett) and her operatives.

I haven’t seen a film of this genre so fresh and original since Luc Besson’s The Professional. Although, unlike Natalie Portman’s child character in that film, Hanna is fully competent to survive on her own.

This film has it all: action that keeps you on the edge of your seat, likeable characters, despicable villains, and creative camerawork that subtly makes the film more interesting than most.

Click here for that review along with the discussion questions I provided, a dialogue about revenge and how God wants to free us from the self-inflicted torture chamber of bitterness.

As I mention in my review, this film probably isn’t for young kids. A little violent at times. But I wouldn’t hesitate to bring my teenagers to the film and discuss it afterwards.

This will have to hold me off until November 23rd… when the new The Muppets movie is released. (Seriously… it’s gonna rock! Trust me!)

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This is the Way; Walk In It

Posted on: 09/1/11 1:33 PM | by Jonathan McKee

When’s the last time you saw a secular feature film, Rated G, that opened with a Bible verse? When the lights go down in the theatre this Friday, and the previews finish… these words appear on the screen:

“Whether you turn to the right or the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” – Isaiah 30:21

The film I’m talking about is the new Robert Duvall and Lucas Black film titled, Seven Days in Utopia, the story of a young pro golfer who finds himself unexpectedly stranded in Utopia, TX and welcomed by an eccentric rancher (Duvall). I happened to catch Duvall on the Today Show earlier this week talking about the film. It looks amazing. Apparently actor Lukas Black is actually a scratch golfer- the first of this caliber to play a golfer in a film like this. (A great little featurette on IMDB here.)

A month ago we had the opportunity to send one of our reviewers to screen this film, and Todd and I knew that we needed to give this review to David R. Smith (co-author of my book MINISTRY BY TEENAGERS, and author of so many of our Youth Culture Window articles), so he attended an early screening near his home in Tampa, FL. You see, David loves golf in every way. He has come to Sacramento several years and helped us raise money for our ministry at our golf tournament… and let me just say that David can hit a ball! Last time I played, David was an 11 handicap. That means while I was hitting balls in the woods, in the sand and in the water, David was hitting long and straight.

David chimes in on our Movie Reviews & Quick Q’s page today about this amazing film hitting theatres tomorrow. Here’s just a snippet:

This isn’t the typical movie you see coming out of Hollywood. First, it’s rated G. (I didn’t think they made those anymore.) Second, it contains a fairly strong Christian message within the story. Finally, it’s absolutely loaded with tons of healthy themes like “having conviction,” “restoring relationships,” “overcoming addictions” and “pursuing a godly romance.”

The plot revolves around a golfer named Luke Chisolm (Lucas Black) who suffers through a horrendous meltdown during his professional debut on the pro circuit. He hastily exits the scene and drives through Texas until he accidentally crashes his car in a little town called Utopia, TX, population 375. There he meets golfer-turned-rancher, Johnny (Robert Duvall) who teaches him that life is far more than a golf score. Through Texas’ version of “wax on, wax off” style instruction, Johnny helps Luke regain his game…and much, much more.

In this movie, Matthew Dean Russell, the renowned visual effects guru behind such films as Live Free or Die Hard, Night at the Museum, and Blade: Trinity, makes his directorial debut. For the most part, he provides great coaching for the relatively unknown actors/actresses as they navigate several compelling scenes; only once or twice do simple lines get delivered in a slightly unconvincing manner.

One really cool feature the film employed was its use of actual golf icons (who aren’t actors). From the PGA Tour, we see appearances by some really big names like Ricky Fowler, Stewart Cink, K. J. Choi, and others; outside the ropes we see and hear from actual analysts on the Golf Channel like Kelly Tilghman, Brandel Chamblee, and Frank Nobilo. These features help add realistic elements to the movie.

Of course, the biggest name on this movie is Robert Duvall, who needed no leading by Russell. He plays the perfectly eccentric rancher, who was formerly a professional golfer, himself, who helps Chisolm regain his confidence and find faith…

CLICK HERE FOR DAVID’S ENTIRE REVIEW

I look forward to seeing this one!

Clips

Posted on: 08/18/11 12:04 PM | by Jonathan McKee

Okay, I’m a big proponent of anything that helps adults initiate discussions with kids. I’m an even bigger fan of something that is mobile.

Let me introduce you to “Clips.”

Sure, I usually plug stuff to you that’s free. But this is $2.99. That’s close enough to free!

For those of you who love apps, you’ll love this. “Clips” is an app that helps you use scenes from a popular movie to kick off discussion. I’ll give you an example. I just watched Battle Los Angelos with my own kid last week. I looked on “Clips” to see if they had it- they did (you can search by Title, Topic, or Favorites). “Clips” offers a brief description, then provides you some quick q’s along with a few scripture suggestions.

“Clips” is in the beginning stages, so their list of movies definitely needs to grow. But I already saw movies like Toy Story 3, Tangled, The Dilemma, and The Blind Side on their list, to name just a few.

Definitely worth the $3.