A Glimpse Into Miley

Posted on: 03/22/10 2:58 PM | by Jonathan McKee

Our Sunday paper, The Sacramento Bee, always includes a little celeb magazine-insert called PARADE, providing celebrity interviews and photos. Yesterday’s PARADE featured an in depth interview with Miley Cyrus titled, Nobody’s Teen Queen. And she made that point quite clear. She’s gonna do what she wants to do. Or to quote her, “Dude, I choose!”

Miley also spoke her mind about her Christianity, going to church, and the revealing way she dresses. Her opinions in short:

“I’m spiritual in my own way.”

“I don’t necessarily define my faith by going to church every Sunday.”

And her risqué attire?

“Suddenly I’m a slut. That’s so old-school.”

Hmmmmm. More on that in a minute.

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged about Miley. For a long time I jumped to her defense. After all, she’s just a teenager, and I know I did some STUPID things when I was her age. But as time progressed, the innocent Hannah Montana has begun to fade and a more risqué Miley is beginning to emerge. The pinnacle was probable the Teen Choice Awards where she not only did her little pole dance, but she wore a dress that would have made J-Lo blush. I spoke my mind clearly about that the day after that event.

In this PARADE interview she addresses criticisms like these. I think you’ll find her reasoning disappointing.

First, let me be very clear. I can’t possibly begin to understand what it’s like to be the subject of this type of daily media frenzy. It would get pretty tiring being followed to school, the grocery store and even church. This kind of harrassment has to be some of the most difficult aspects about being a celeb. I can’t imagine getting out of a swimming pool only to have my picture appear in some magazine criticizing my weight or my bathing suit. That being said, this difficulty doesn’t excuse me, Miley or anyone from our responsibility as a role model.

Miley is being watched by millions upon millions of kids. Year after year Miley has been deemed the #1 hero among young kids, tweens and even teens. She’s the one to watch. MTV, the Oscars, the Teen Choice Awards all know this. That’s why they book her. She brings a HUGE fan base. Miley is idolized, imitated, looked up to and copied by kids of all ages.

Everyone knows, with great leadership, comes great responsibility. Here’s where Miley keeps falling short. She continues to make bad decisions, decisions that even her fans recognize as below par. Last year, her own fans voted her as “the worst celebrity influence” of the year, along with Britney and Kanye. (Wow, that’s pretty low!) And when she’s called on it, she usually quick to retort. Such is the case in yesterday’s PARADE:

My job first is to entertain and do what I love, and if you don’t like it, then change the channel. I’m not forcing you to watch me. I’m not forcing you to talk about me. I would do that pole dance a thousand times again, because it was right for the song and that performance. But, dude, if you think dancing on top of an ice-cream cart with a pole is bad, then go check what 90% of the high schoolers are really up to. It’s funny. I don’t know if a lot of parents remember what they were like as kids. But I’m like, ‘Dude, as if you were an angel!’”

I guess that’s her defense. The old, I’m not as bad as others. And don’t forget the gool ol’, Oh yeah, I bet you weren’t perfect either! (I particularly liked that one when I was 13)

Convincing defense. Try those in court.

When asked about church, Miley gave us a glimpse of her faith as well.

“My faith is very important to me,” she says. “But I don’t necessarily define my faith by going to church every Sunday. Because now when I go to church, I feel like it’s a show. There are always cameras outside. I am very spiritual in my own way. Let me make it clear, though—I am a Christian. Jesus is who saved me. He’s what keeps me full and whole. But everyone is entitled to what they believe and what keeps them full. Hopefully, I can influence people and help them follow the same path I am on, but it is not my job to tell people what they are doing wrong.”

Is it hard being openly Christian in Hollywood?

“People are always looking for you to do something that is non-Christian,” she answers. “But it’s like, ‘Dude, Christians don’t live in the dark.’ I have to participate in life. If I wear something revealing, they go, ‘Well, that’s not Christian.’ And I’m like, ‘Yeah, I’m going to go to hell because I’m wearing a pair of really short white shorts.’ Suddenly I’m a slut. That’s so old-school.”

Sigh.

I appreciate that she gives Glory to God in most her interviews; and I like that she’s not ashamed to talk about Jesus. But when I talked about this part of the interview with my own kids, we discussed two concerns:

1. No matter how difficult it is to get to church and connect with other Christians… never give up on it. The Bible is clear throughout that we need fellowship with other believers. Just last week we were studying this in Hebrews.

Hebrews 3:13 (NIV)
13 But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.

The Bible is filled with passages that talk about the need for fellowship with other believers.

2. Where is Miley getting her values from? She said she’d do the pole dance 1,000 times again because it was “right for the song.” Her reasoning is basically, At least it’s not as bad as some! Or perhaps modesty is just “old school.”

When my son, almost Miley’s age, first saw Miley in that dress at the 2009 Teen Choice Awards, he said, “Oh my!” Maybe Billy Ray has never sat Miley down and talked to her about how visual guys are. Maybe Miley has never studied what the Bible says about lust. I feel bad for her if she’s ignorant about these truths. But someone needs to tell her what happens when she flashes her jugs to the world. It affects the boys around her when she dips on a pole like a stripper. Why do you think secular critics threw a fit when she did it? 

Furthermore… like it or not, Miley is a role model. Young girls are going to follow her lead. Prom dresses are becoming more low cut year after year. Modesty is disappearing. Miley could choose to go against the flow of Hollywood in this respect. But instead, she’s choosing to conform.

Perhaps that’s because Biblical truths are being deemed “old school.”

Hmmmmmm.

Gaga and Beyonce Team Up to Currupt

Posted on: 03/16/10 3:38 PM | by Jonathan McKee

You’ve read our articles summarizing the content coming out of Beyonce. You’ve read our articles summarizing what you can expect from Lady Gaga. So I guess it’s no surprise what results when the two of them team up. It’s racy, it’s explicit… and it’s the number one downloaded video on iTunes right now.

I’m referring to the brand new hit music video for Lady Gaga’s Telephone. Beyonce joins her for this 10-minute music video that CNN calls the most “anticipated, dissected and discussed video in months.”

This video (WARNNG- This video doesn’t say EXPLICIT content- but, even though it has no actual nudity, I think most of you will find it rather explicit) offers a little bit of everything that Gaga knows will sell: girl-on-girl kissing, blurred nudity (I’ve noticed that a lot of videos and TV are doing this lately. They show nudity, but simply pixilate anything explicit), racy outfits (Gaga devotes a good portion of screen time to dancing in a thong bikini), mass murder (complete with props from a Tarentino’s Kill Bill), explicit words… and plenty of “eye candy.” I’ve already seen several versions of the video. One (the iTunes version) shows her almost completely naked spread eagle with her crotch blurred out. Then one of the female prison guards comments, “I told you she didn’t have a d**k.”

I guess Gaga really wanted to clear up any misconception that she was a hermaphrodite.

The video really is receiving a lot of buzz. It reminds me of the buzz that Michael Jackson’s Thriller received when I was a kid. Everyone just HAD to see the video (I saw it at my friend Kevin’s house). Fast forward 20 years and I guess Michael would have had to have been naked for that one.

REACTING… NOT OVERREACTING
Parents and youth workers– sadly, many of our kids will probably see this video. It’s all over the web. Even if we block explicit content, very often YouTube and iTunes will avoid those blocks, and both provide the explicit version of the video.

So it’s this simple. Have conversations with our kids about these kind of videos. If we are relying on “Cybernanny” to do the job for us…. we’re falling short. We need to talk with our kids about simply avoiding this kind of eye candy. Fathers, talk with our sons about what the Bible means when it says to “FLEE” sexual immorality. We don’t need images in our heads of Gaga in a thong.

Keeping aware of popular media in our youth culture can open the door to conversations with today’s teenagers. Let’s keep that door open by not over-reacting, but engaging in a healthy dialogue (like the Apostle Paul did in Acts 17). As parents, balance dialogue with boundaries. It’s okay to say, “This doesn’t belong in our house.” That generally works better than lighting the computer on fire and grounding our kids for 6 months!

Are you prepared to talk with your kids about using discernment when choosing what videos they watch? And for those of our kids that already have seen it…. are your prepared to discuss what they saw?

You Know I’m Just Gonna Hurtcha!

Posted on: 03/15/10 10:33 AM | by Jonathan McKee

When I met my wife 20 years ago, we were both 19 and had been living life for ourselves. A lot of consequences result from this kind of living, and the two of us faced the fallout of some of those consequences together even as we got involved in our church, grew closer to God, and to each other.

Just before we met, Lori had been dating a guy who was… how can I say it? … a playa.” Reflecting on this relationship, Lori always shares, “How could I have been so stupid? I knew he was going to be with other girls from the start of the relationship, but I somehow convinced myself that he wouldn’t do that to me. But he did, over and over again.”

Painful memories for Lori. Maybe that’s why the #1 hit on the music charts today, Break Your Heart, irritates her so much.

“The song is trying to justify this kind of playa lifestyle,” she implores. Lori, a mom of 12 and 14-year-old girls, also mentors a small group of junior high girls at our church. “It’s the kind of lie that today’s young girls are buying.

This candid new song, Break Your Heart, is by Taio Cruz. He’d probably just argue that he’s “keeping it real.” Because he and rapper Ludacris make their intentions clear throughout the song. “I’m going to hurt you.” “I’ve got a problem with misbehavin.”

Oh… well then I guess it’s okay then. As long as he admits it up front, right?

(I just spent a little bit of time talking about Ludacris and his typical content in the latter half of my blog about Britney fans last week. Grown ups are even embracing artists like Luda.)

David R. Smith does an incredible job at unpacking this song in this week’s Youth Culture Window article, Low Expectations for Love. In the article, he not only provides us with information about the song and the artist, he also shares some concern about the impact on our girls’ self esteem. He wraps up the article by providing some questions that we can ask our teeenagers about this song, or more importantly, this mindset. I encourage you to read that article.

Yesterday my son Alec (16) was talking with me about girls at his school. He and a few friends were sharing how quick and easy girls are to provide sexual favors to guys today. Girls are growing up in a world that not only convinces them that they need to dress like a hootchie, but that they need to be sexual objects. Now songs like Break Your Heart seem to be conveying, “Some guys are like this… and that’s okay.”

With today’s “hookup” mentality, this probably isn’t a big deal. Hooking up basically means “being sexually active for fun, with no strings attached.” Perhaps Cruz and Ludacris think that today’s “Hookup” generation won’t feel any guilt or regret when they’re treated like an object.

If they only knew how many tears were shed the day after.

What messages are your kids hearing from songs like this?

Geriatric Britney Fans

Posted on: 03/11/10 7:21 AM | by Jonathan McKee

Earlier this week I was swimming laps at my local pool (some of you might remember my blog about when I first began doing this with my kids). Sometimes it’s hard to time it right– there are a lot of other activities and clubs that use the pool. Sometimes we end up on one side of the pool doing laps in a few lane lines, while water aerobics claim the other half of the pool. That’s what happened this week. I was swimming laps while about 14 sweet little ol’ ladies were being led through a 30-minute water aerobics workout on the other side of the pool.

I wasn’t paying much attention to what was going on. But during some kickboard laps I had my head out of the water long enough to hear the music selection… and you’ll never guess what it was! (okay… the title of the blog does give ya a hint!)

I didn’t expect Lawrence Welk… I mean… this is water aerobics. I would expect something with rythm. But I didn’t expect Britney’s song, If You Seek Amy!

Yeah. No kidding. Here are a group of sweet little old 80 and 90 year old ladies dancing to the lyrics:

love me hate me say what you want about me
but all of the boys and all of the girls are begging to EF – U – C – K me.

Then, for those of you who have read the lyrics or are aware of the song… you hear the digital voice in the background saying “f**k me, f**k me.”

I actually stopped and looked over to see if any of them realized what they were dancing to. I don’t think they did.

The aerobics instructor, a young 30-something woman, went on to play Black Eyed Peas and a bunch of other current music with no regard to content. I chuckled and went back to my workout. I guess I was correct when I wrote, “No Wonder Our Kids Listen to It.”

I guess I shouldn’t be surprised with this at all in today’s culture. Adults are readily embracing racy and degrading lyrics. Earlier this week rapper Ludacris filled in for Regis on the Regis and Kelly show. I checked out about 20 minutes of the show. Kelly went on and on about how she had all of Luda’s CDs, etc. Think about this. Kelly is a mom, my age listening to Ludacris lyrics. I can’t help but just wonder, Has she ever stopped and thought about what Ludachris is rapping about? I guess she doesn’t mind being referred to as a “bi*ch” or a “ho.”

She obviously doesn’t mind the way his girls dance.

Hmmmmmm.

Sigh.

Lil Wayne ALMOST Goes to Jail

Posted on: 03/2/10 2:57 PM | by Jonathan McKee

I’m going to try to behave with this post.

As I write this, on March 2nd, Lil Wayne was supposed to be formally sentenced today and begin his jail time. (I can’t say that I was all teary eyed about it.) This morning MTV News even began their article on the subject with the words, “Barring any colossally unforeseen circumstances…”

Were those words prophetic? Because a fire broke out in the courthouse and his sentencing was delayed AGAIN!

Hmmmmmm.

RollingStone provides some details about the fire here… so does every other online newspaper.

I’ve chimed in on Lil Wayne’s music, his “role model” status, and his journey to prison before in this blog. My feelings are pretty evident on the matter. Lil Wayne is a pervert and a thug who is doing a great job at providing distracting content in the ears of our young people today. (How was that? Was that nice enough?)

I don’t want to seem unsympathetic. Lil Wayne needs Christ. And I hope that if I met him, Jesus would step in and show His love through me for Wayne. But at the same time, Wayne’s content is very distressing to me. I see the effect it’s having on young people today, and it saddens me. I’m hoping that his year in jail might make him think.

MTV News gave a little more details about the sentencing he was supposed to receive today. Here’s a snippet:

Barring any colossally unforeseen circumstances (or eight more root canals), Lil Wayne will be formally sentenced and finally turn himself in to begin his one-year prison sentence in New York on Tuesday (March 2).

The sentencing was scheduled for last month, but Wayne’s attorney requested a delay due to dental surgery the rapper required. Judge Charles H. Solomon agreed to the last-minute request and rescheduled the proceedings for March 2. The New Orleans MC has had more time than he requested to recover from a reported eight root canals in one day.

“I don’t want this to get pushed back anymore,” Judge Solomon told the rapper’s lawyer during his last appearance. “This is the last adjournment.”

Now with the fire… we’ll have to just wait and see.

Black Eyed Peas Go #1 Again

Posted on: 02/26/10 5:22 AM | by Jonathan McKee

Earlier this week I blogged a little about the Black Eyed Peas hit song Imma Be rapidly climbing the charts. As I wrote that blog, it was #1 on iTunes and #3 on Billboard. This morning as I sat in the airport waiting for my flight, I noticed that it just rose to #1 on Billboard Hot 100 now as well. That is the third song from this album to hit #1.

Imma Be is an interesting song. I won’t rehash my blog from earlier this week– I encourage you to check it out, especially the YouTube video I posted of three “tweens” dancing to the song and singing the lyrics… yes… even the foul lyrics.

But now I find it interesting once again to look at the Billboard Hot 100. Take a peek at merely the top 5 songs right now:

Wow. Do a quick Google search on the lyrics of those songs… you’ll be amazed what this generation is cherishing as the “top songs.”

Sigh.

Imma Be

Posted on: 02/22/10 3:36 PM | by Jonathan McKee

The video released last week, the song is at the top of the charts, and the words to the song… well… I’ll get to that in a minute.

Imma Be is the title of… no, not the new, just the recently popular, kinda-new… Black Eyed Peas song. As I write this, Imma Be is the #1 downloaded song on iTunes (yes, bigger than the new We are the World) and #3 on the Billboard Hot 100.

If you’re a youth worker or a parent and you’re not familiar with the band Black Eyed Peas, you might want to spend a few minutes getting to know them, because our teens and tweens know their songs, are familiar with the videos and don’t hesitate to spend money downloading either. The Black Eyed Peas are a constant on the music charts. Or as teenagers today would put it, “These guys own!”

Allow me to be more specific. In 2009 the pop group Black Eyed Peas owned the #1 spot on the Billboard Hot 100 chart from April 12th to October 10th. Their song Boom Boom Pow owned it for three months, and then their song I’ve Gotta Feeling stepped up and began its reign for about three months. Combined, these 2 songs owned the #1 spot merely 2 days short of 6 straight months. Only 13 songs made it to the top of the charts in 2009, and of those, Black Eyed Peas’ two songs dominated half the year, leaving only 6 months for the other 11 songs. As to not repeat ourselves, I encourage you to take a look at David’s amazing summary of the top songs of 2009 on our Youth Culture Window page at the end of last year. That article will give you a deeper look at the Black Eyed Peas two #1 songs and their reign in 2009.

Now, from the same album (The E.N.D.), their song Imma Be is taking its turn riding the top of the charts.

The question that many might have is, “What is the content of this music?” Good question, a question youth workers and parents should be asking.

Black Eyed Peas have never shyed away from being risqué with front-person Fergie always showing off, and I quote, her “lovely lady lumps.” They have explicit versions, and “clean” versions of many of their songs. But I encourage you to take a deeper look at that definition of “clean.” I think you’ll find these “clean” versions about as clean as a PG-13 movie. Black Eyed Peas are great at placing plenty of sexual imagery in their “clean” material. Those of you who are new to my blog, you might want to check out my blog titled, “Look Mom, No Cuss Words! It Must Be Clean!” … where I unveiled a little bit about what you’ll see if you watch some of this group’s videos. (A little while later I blogged about some home-made videos that began emerging from this popular song.)

So what can we expect from their song Imma Be?

A quick Google search for the lyrics will tell you most of what you need to know. Here’s an excerpt… edited by me:

Rich baby, quick, quick, Imma, Imma, Imma be
The sh*t baby, check me out, be
Imma be, Imma be on top, never stop
Be, be, Imma, Imma be, Imma be, be, be

Imma, Imma be, Imma be f*ckin’ her
Imma, Imma, Imma be, Imma be, be, be, Imma be…

Do you get the idea?

But maybe the radio versions and videos edit out those cuss words… right? Yes, but this song is currently the #1 downloaded song on iTunes. What version do you think your kids are downloading?

I find that many teenagers will argue, “I don’t listen to the words.” Are they right? Do you think teens and tweens know the words to this song? Check out these three girls on the video they posted on YouTube. They know the words… and they obviously know when they’re saying something risqué. (The little girl with the glasses gives it away every time with a giggle.)

What about the official video? Black Eyed Peas debuted it last Wednesday. You’ll notice that it omits many of the cuss words, but doesn’t leave out lines like this:

Imma be a brother, but my name ain’t Lehman
Imma be ya bank, I be loaning out semen…

Gotta love censorship. “No cusswords! It must be clean!”

Keep your eyes on this band. Our kids have their eyes and ears glued to them.

Teaching Discernment to Alyssa

Posted on: 02/8/10 9:55 AM | by Jonathan McKee

This week’s Youth Culture Window article is a little different than normal… it’s a story of my 14-year-old Alyssa asking me permission to download a song on iTunes. This situation wasn’t one of those ‘cut and dry’ easy decisions. You know… like when your kids ask you if they can download a Crowder song (“Duh, yes!”)… or when they ask you if they can download Beyonce’s Video Phone (“Duh, no!”). This was one of those instances that actually took “discernment.” (Dang… why isn’t parenting easier!)

This just happened last week, and I thought it would be a fun story to share with other parents. Here’s just a snippet of the article:

“Dad, can I download Down?”

That’s what my 14-year-old asked me this week, hoping to download the song from iTunes onto her iPod. If you’re a parent, you may have experienced a situation similar to this, seeing that 76% of 8-18 year-olds now own these mobile music devices (KFF, Generation M2, page 29).

During lunch that day, Alyssa had heard Jay Sean’s song “Down” play over the school’s PA system (because that’s what our public schools often do in CA). There’s little wonder why my daughter heard this song at school. Though it’s currently ranked #23 on Billboard’s Hot 100, this song by Jay Sean and Lil Wayne has been on the charts for 30 weeks and it peaked at #1. In other words, this tune has gotten some serious air time!  I heard it in the airport last weekend.

My kids have an agreement with my wife Lori and me that they must review the lyrics before downloading any song. We’ve been trying to teach them to use discernment with what they listen to because we all know that music truly affects actions. (Just last week David’s Youth Culture Window article cited the unique study performed by the University of Sussex about the affect of music on teenagers. That study made me want to “knock some pencils off the table” in my house to see what happens!)

So when Alyssa asked me if she could download the song, I offered her the same response I always give. “Did you look at the lyrics?”

She answered honestly, “Yeah, but I couldn’t tell if they were bad.”

You gotta love this situation! Here’s my daughter being a normal teenager who likes the sound of a song. She knows the process in our house and she comes to me genuinely seeking an answer of what’s right… or just hoping I’d say yes!

Here lies the struggle. In moments like these I can’t help but second guess myself. Alyssa is a great kid. Am I monitoring her too much? Should I back off and let her just download what she wants? After all, my rules seem a little more stringent than many other parents I know…even some of those in my church.

Do you ever wonder what to do in these situations?

 You can read the rest of the article here, or it’s featured in the big Youth Culture Window magnifying glass on the front page of our site, www.TheSource4YM.com

More of the Same from the Grammys

Posted on: 02/1/10 9:00 AM | by Jonathan McKee

I don’t think I can say it any better than I did last year the day after the Grammys when I said, “Why are adults surprised that kids listen to raunchy music? Kids are only following their example.”

Last night, the Grammys once again gave us a true glimpse of who and what adults value in this world. And I couldn’t help but chuckle when I found out Beyonce received 10 nominations, winning six awards. This week it’s going to be difficult for Beyonce-fan moms to tell their own little girls, “You can’t go out dressed like that!” After all… Beyonce does it.

And how are moms going to impose boundaries on their teenagers cell phones, when they’ve got Beyonce’s hit song “Video Phone” (currently the 17th most popular video download on iTunes) blaring on the radio, spewing these lyrics:

What? You want me naked?
If you likin’ this position
You can tape it
On ya video phone

David pulled back the covers a few weeks ago here with his expose’ on Beyonce in our Youth Culture Window section of our web site.

Beyonce isn’t alone in her smut peddling. The top songs on the charts paint a pretty bleak picture right now. David’s current Youth Culture Window article about our kids’ daily increase in music saturation not only reveals an eye opening glimpse of some of the songs in the Top 10 right now, but also shares an interesting study about how much lyrics really affect kids. Fascinating stuff!

But I guess America would rather forget all the facts… and just keep awarding these “artists.”

Here’s a few of the awards given last night:

Album of the year
Taylor Swift, Fearless

Female pop performance
Beyoncé, Halo

Rap/sung collaboration
Jay-Z, Rihanna and Kanye West, Run This Town

Rock album
Green Day, 21st Century Breakdown

Record of the year
Kings of Leon, Use Somebody

Country album
Taylor Swift, Fearless

Song of the year
Beyoncé, Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It)

Pop vocal album
The Black Eyed Peas, The E.N.D.

Male pop vocal performance
Jason Mraz, Make It Mine

R&B song
Beyoncé, Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It)

Rap album
Eminem, Relapse

Rap song
Jay-Z, Rihanna and Kanye West, Run This Town

Dance recording
Lady Gaga, Poker Face L

Electronic dance album
Lady Gaga, The Fame

Click here for USA TODAY’s complete list of the winners.

Virginity Sells… Sex Sells

Posted on: 01/26/10 6:15 PM | by Jonathan McKee

On January 17th VH1 News presented a piece called “The New Virginity.” (You can catch some very amateur-captured glimpses of it all over YouTube) VH1’s website brags that the show “explores the roots of our current obsession with chastity–the stars who’ve made their virginity a major part of their public persona.”

You know- the Jonas Bros, Selena, Demi… VH1 seems to hint that their “purity pledges” will be short lived. They argue that stars want to keep their audience as they get older. The pattern that we see so far from artists like Britney is to be innocent, then slowly become more and more provocative.

This article about the VH1 show says it like this: “virginity may sell when you’re a teen, but sex sells when you’re an adult.”

The article goes on to present some polarized views:

Sexuality, not virginity, VH1 said, is the key to success for these soon-to-be adult stars like Cyrus and Gomez.

If purity rings and pledges aren’t practical for long-term Hollywood success, VH1 wasn’t any more positive about their value to even normal teens. If abstinence isn’t going to sell records or land you a TV show, don’t bother taking purity pledges, since they create “unrealistic expectations.” 

“There’s now an iPhone application,” said Jessica Valenti, author of “The Purity Myth,” “that’s a purity ring that you can have on your phone to show that you’re a virgin. I guess it’s actually kind of useful because once you lose your virginity – like most kids who take virginity pledges do – you can just trash it.”

Since teenagers can’t control themselves, Valenti said that “sexual education,” not abstinence, should be the focal point.

“Thirty-three percent of kids that take the pledge are more likely to initiate sex,” she said, “yet very few of them know anything about protection, so they’re less likely to actually use a condom and more likely to get an STD or get pregnant.”

That’s one way to read the statistics. Another way would be to note that the 33 percent is 8.8 percent less than the 42.4 percent of non-pledgers who initiate. And that pledgers are no less likely to use a condom when they do have sex.

VH1’s description of the show contends:

“In a world where tweens grow up too fast, a public declaration of chastity until marriage is a statement against the fast and furious life that many young stars succumb to, particularly those in the entertainment industry. But, as the show will point out, virginity doesn’t stop celebs from looking and acting provocatively–playing both sides with impressive marketing results. The stars aren’t the only ones caught up in virgin-mania. At Purity Balls across America, dads and daughters are living an abstinence fairy tale.”

Ouch!!!