“I want to share what the Bible says about homosexuality, but I’m afraid it’s going to just build walls instead of breaking them down.”
“My son doesn’t want to believe in God if God is against gays.”
The subject of same-sex attraction is probably one of the biggest issues youth ministries and parents are dealing with today. If our kids aren’t experiencing these feelings themselves, then they most likely have friends who are. This cultivates questions, which often are left unanswered in the church because we’re afraid of the backlash.
I understand completely. When I went to write my book Sex Matters for teenagers, I know I needed to address the issue of same-sex attraction, but that put me in a catch-22. No matter how much I emphasized love and grace, if I actually put in print that I think homosexual behavior is a sin… then I know I could be labeled a “hater.”
At the same time, if I caved and changed my theology (as many are doing) to something I didn’t believe, then I know that wouldn’t help anyone. Similarly, I’m not going to start advising heterosexual teenagers to go ahead and just have sex because it feels right at the moment.
So how should we respond? How do we answer these tough questions?
The answer is in the person of Jesus, and the more we get to know him, the more His response will become our response.
I just unveiled a little bit of what this actually looks like in our brand new Youth Culture Window article this week, Reaching Kids Experiencing Same Sex Attraction (posted both on our parents page and on our youth ministry page). This article links other helpful articles with even more research on the subject.
I also addressed this question, along with many other difficult questions, in the final chapter of my two brand new books: Sex Matters (for teenagers) and More Than Just the Talk (for adults), not only addressing our methodology, but providing a deeper look into our theology on the subject.