Abstinence-only Haters

If you own a TV or watch media of any kind, it’s no surprise to you that much of the world (and most of the media out there) hates the idea of Abstinence-only, and DESPISES Abstinence-only education.

I stumbled across a feminist web site today that expresses some pretty deep resentment against abstinence-only education. A glimpse at this page provided a good perspective of some of the world’s thinking. The page mocked a video (made by abstinence-only believers) that showed people transferring a piece of duct tape from place to place. The video argued that two pieces of duct tape stick together forever, but one piece, transported from place to place, loses it’s effectiveness with each transfer.

And WOW… did this web site rip on this video. Here’s their post titled, “My vagina is, in fact, not made of duct tape” (I edited a bit of the language)

Okay, I’m well aware that this “PSA” was probably made for some class project, but I really think it shows how frigging bizarre (and dangerous) abstinence-only classes are. I mean, f***ing duct tape? I also don’t think it’s a coincidence that of the many places the slutty piece of tape gets stuck, a garbage can is shown multiple times. (Just in case you didn’t get the sex-is-dirty message clearly enough.) After all, there’s nothing worse than trashy, whorey, adhesives.

The first comment was what really hit me:

Is anyone else totally creeped out by the idea of being “stuck together forever” with someone else? Ugh.


You can click here if you want to read the whole thing. (Warning… this web site has bad language.)

I’ll be the first to admit that it is very difficult to draw black and white lines in a “grey” world. We spent a week discussing some of the difficulties with trying to teach God’s design for sex in a world that embraces “Do what feels right at the moment.” I understand the lure of temptation. I can relate to the struggle of sin. But, WOW! I literally mourn for a world that gets “creeped out” by the idea of being with someone for the rest of their lives.

I’m going on year 17 with my wife and each year just gets better and better.

About Jonathan McKee

president of The Source for Youth Ministry, is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices, If I Had a Parenting Do Over, 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He has over 20 years youth ministry experience and speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers and parents on his websites, TheSource4YM.com and TheSource4Parents.com. You can follow Jonathan on his blog, getting a regular dose of youth culture and parenting help. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.
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One Response to Abstinence-only Haters

  1. Ametatsu says:

    It’s not the idea of being with someone that’s creepy, it’s the idea of being stuck to them. Being with someone by choice is a lovely idea, but being stuck to them implies you couldn’t get away if you wanted to…being happy and fulfilled together is great, but I think what the people on feministing are uncomfortable with is the fact that the sticky duct tape image presents the “together” part as the desirable part of that, not the “happy and fulfilled” part. If you’ve had a good marriage to your wife for 17 years, good for you – but if you WEREN’T enjoying your marriage, then would it still be desirable for you to be stuck together forever, just for the sake of being together…would that be so great?
    It’s what you get out of the relationship that’s desirable/undesirable, not the format of the relationship – what’s creepy about the duct tape thing is that it presents that one relationship format as if it’s always the desirable route to take, and tbh sometimes it isn’t.